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When love crosses borders…

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I must have been asked this question a thousand times…”Why  did you leave a hot tropical beautiful country like Seychelles to come to UK?” Here I share my thoughts with you if you haven’t read the post before.

In today’s globalised world, it has become very simple to meet people from all kinds of cultural backgrounds – and, sometimes fall in love; that’s what happened to me! I come from a very conventional Seychellois family and I was born and bred in Seychelles. In my early thirties I was constantly reminded by my beloved grandmother that I “should find a nice Seychellois man and settle down.” Growing up, I always knew I wanted to travel the world and see what were beyond our beautiful shores. I have visited many countries and meeting my husband in UK was a bonus! My ultimate dream was to settle down with a Seychellois and live close to my family. Now, my reality is a far cry from that dream. I am happily married to this quirky half English and half Scottish man with an Irish surname and living thousands of miles away from my homeland and family. We have two beautiful children (one born in each country!) and a lovely home but our interracial matrimony has some definite downsides as well. It also comes with heart-wrenching and, at times, heart-breaking realities that makes us question our choices. One of us is always living far and far away from families and it can be such a challenge but for love and the children we have to make it work and we have to adapt. We have to remind ourselves that life and love are neither static nor unchanging…so we adapt and move on. My husband knows he will never get me to eat Brussels sprouts or cranberry sauce on Christmas day and I know that I will never get him to eat our famous ‘la dob bannann’ (plantains cook in coconut milk and sugar) However our relationship is face with other challenges simply because we are from two different continents and with different culture and sometimes we do clash. My husband and I have learned to appreciate most of one another’s cultural quirks. This has actually been a fun experience, more so for him…Sega (Our traditional dance) will never be his forte! There are times when our cultural differences rub one another the wrong way. The cultural idiosyncrasies of my husband that I love the most can easily frustrate me when I’m not at my best (and mine can do the same to him!). We are both proud of our cultural heritage and traditions so we work together to create ways to celebrate them that will be meaningful to both of us and our children.

AND TODAY WE CELEBRATE …HAPPY 13TH ANNIVERSARY TO US!

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Inspired by Seychelles…

I may not be living there at the moment but I am a Seychelles girl at heart and always will be. I am counting the days when I will not have to wear a winter  coat again but at the moment UK is my home and this is how it will be for a few years to come!   I love it when my little country inspired others. Seychelles has been an inspiration to many, from the discerning travellers to designers. These products are all Seychelles inspired.

1. Baldessarini Del Mar Seychelles Eau de Toilette Spray for men by Hugo Boss

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Baldessarini Del Mar Seychelles Limited Edition, was created in cooperation with P&G Prestige Beautes Global Fragrance Creation Team, as harmony of adventurous, warm and woody impulses, inspired by exciting sailing on waves of west part of Indian Ocean.

2.Luxury Seychelles scent by The White Companylux product oneEvoking the balmy breeze of an Indian Ocean island, soothing Seychelles combines notes of fresh bergamot, bright orange and rich amber with warming notes of exotic coconut, vanilla and almond. Click here to see the range of Seychelles scents.

3. Seafolly @Coco Bay beach wear-Seychelles inspired playsuit

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4.Takamaka Bay coconut rum

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Takamaka Bay rum is a hit with both the locals and foreigners. Selfridges & Co is stocking the white rum and this is why they like it : Takamaka Bay’s sweet coco rum is a delicious blend of white rum and coconut. It’s as close as you can get to Seychelles in a bottle – close your eyes, take a sip, and you can almost feel the sea lapping at your feet. Enjoy it with lemonade, or pure with fresh lemon over ice.

Disclosure:Please note that this is not a sponsored post and I was not paid to write it. These are products that I love and decided to share with you my lovely readers!

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Great Expectations…

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My daughter at the age of three

I remember a few years ago when all my friends were talking about having babies and getting married, I on the other hand was not really entertaining the idea. I was this young woman who had no interest in having children. I wanted to see the world, do things that my parents have never done and do well in my career. In my early thirties things change, I guess the right man came along and all of a sudden ‘babies’ was not such a bad topic of discussion!I actually take this job of raising children very seriously now and I do have great expectations from my children. My upbringing was so different — brought up in a different cultural environment to that of my children but what I was taught and the values that were instilled in me are all important lessons worth passing on to my own children.

I want my children to grow up knowing their worth, how important they are and to never let anyone tell them otherwise. They are both at the age (12 and 10 now) where they are finding themselves and desperately want to fit in. I hope they both grow up with some of my wise words…

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My son at the age of three

• You are more than just what you see in your mirror.
• Always try to be positive as negative thoughts take you a step backward.
• Do not try to be ‘perfect’ just embrace who you are.
• Let people you love know that you do love them and love from the heart.
• Say you are sorry…say it from the heart.
• Failure is not a sin…you will learn from it.
• Always trust yourself.
• Never settle for ‘good enough’
• Give people a second chance.
• Respect yourself…that’s how you will get respect back.
• Always try your best — at everything you do.
• Don’t wait for your world to change – make it happen.
• Always acknowledge your feelings.
• Cherish even the smallest moments in your life.
• Have friends from all walks of life — you’ll learn a lot.
• Time does not always heal so cry if it hurts.
• Smile when you are happy and let the world know that you are.

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I hope they let their dream be their North Star so that it will take them where they want to be.

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