For a few weeks I have not been blogging simply because life’s little pressures weighed me down a bit. I was so busy with work, marking assignments and working on personal projects that I temporarily forgot how to be happy. It has not been all doom and gloom as I have been enjoying the world cup and I celebrated a birthday (I turned 44 since you asked!). Sometimes we all have bad habits that steal our happiness. Here are three habits that stole mine these past few weeks and I hope sharing it with you will make a tiny difference in how you pursuit your own happiness.
1. Focusing on everyone’s story except your own.
Don’t be over excited by the success stories of others and how things have gone for them that you forget to write your own story. Unfold your own tale and bring it to life. You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. Incredible change happens when you decide to take control. This means consuming less and creating more. It means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and deciding for you. It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts to write your passage.
If you want your life story to soar to new heights, you’ve got to clear a path, reduce the time-sinks and burdens weighing you down, and pick up the things that give you wings. Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day. If you truly care about what you do and you work diligently at it, there’s almost nothing you can’t accomplish.
2. Waiting for the perfect moment.
Don’t buy into the myth of the perfect moment. Moments aren’t perfect; they’re what you make them. So many people wait around for the stars to align to do what they’re here to do. The perfect moment, the perfect opportunity and the perfect state of being; they do not exist. Wake up! These states of perfection are myths.
Your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly related to your willingness to act in the face of imperfection. You will come to succeed not by finding a perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections perfectly.
3. Working for nothing more than a salary.
Work without interest is imprisonment. Even if you aren’t super-passionate about your work, you’ve got to at least be interested in it. When you design a lifestyle in which your work is something you suffer through daily strictly to pay your bills, you end up spending your entire life wishing you had someone else’s.
Think about it. This is your life; your work will fill a large percentage of it. It’s not all about the money; it’s about you. Ignore the propaganda, especially from people who say, “Don’t let your work define you.” Reverse this message and mediate on it: “I will do work that defines me.” When the essence of who you are defines at least some slice of the work you do for a living, that work generates fulfillment.
Have a lovely week and always remember that “Happiness depends upon ourselves.” Aristotle